It's good to be resilient. It's good to be flexible. It's good to stand strong.
Until it isn't.
We all struggle at times with decisions, with change. When something is not working in your life, you have choices. You can stick with it, push against it, examine it from all angles, wish it wasn't that way, complain, fight against it, or ignore it. In most cases all that does is exhaust you.
When that wall is up for a reason, you can push all you want but it won't budge. It's like a Weeble. (Remember the toys? "Weebles wobble, they don't fall down.") Weebles don't have a tipping point. When pushed they pop right back up. And when they pop up they can bop you in the face!
Sometimes when you push, you find out that the obstacle in question is a container of liquid, and when you push, it spills all over you and everything else. You're left with a mess to clean up, but no solution.
I believe that God, the Universe, whatever you call "it," is showing you a block for a reason, especially if you have been asking for help. That "something" that is no longer working is not the best option at this point in your life. You are being asked to see the block, move around it, and move on.
And so your choices are to continue to push and push and push...or to move on.
Move on in what direction? Only you can sense that...but you can.
I've found that the key to uncovering options, possibilities, non-Weebly choices, is to get quiet. Sit in nature silently, with an open mind and heart. Hold the intent of uncovering your absolute best possibilities. And allow.
If you read my blog or social media posts regularly, you know that I often write about the importance of taking action toward goals, planting the seed of an idea so that it may take root. There are several types of action that may be taken, and it's important to consider which will serve you best.
We often find ourselves pushing against something we don't want. We rebel against a political statement, we denounce actions of others, or we argue a point in a business discussion. Usually without being consciously aware of it, we add energy and focus to these things by the act of pushing. As most conscious-thought teachers say, whether you are for or against something, you are still focused on that thing.
Sometimes we find ourselves pulling ... taking action to figuratively drag something to ourselves. We may try to force a relationship that does not feel energetically easy, or we may pester a potential client when we don't hear from them, or we may take something rather than allowing it to naturally come to us.
The most energetically easy action to take is to reach. Simply reach out your hand (figuratively and yes, sometimes literally) and grasp what comes to you. When you hold an empty hand out expecting it to be filled with all sorts of good things you desire in your life, that's where the magic happens. You're making yourself available, you're showing up and allowing.
Reaching is an action itself, and an allowing of more action toward your dreams. Hands out!
I was recently speaking with a friend with whom I have a great deal in common. We both had awareness lately of how we occasionally slip into older, less enlightened thoughts and behaviors. That's human nature, isn't it? The ego gets in the way of progress, working hard to keep you safe (by the ego's definition), when you know a better way to be.
In WordPress, Google Docs and other programs, there is a Revert function that allows you to reset a page to a previously saved version. When a problem occurs with the newest changes, you can simply click to go back to a version of the page that you prefer.
When we practice that better way and that is our "normal," the backtrack feels off somehow. The awareness of "off" is what allows us to re-engage that new, more aware way of being. That is our chance to hit the "Revert" function in our internal software! "Oh, wait, no wonder this doesn't feel right. Things have been going so well with my newer thought patterns and manifestations...but I slipped. Let's go back to these better ways - Undo - RESET!"
Pay attention to the manifestations you're experiencing. If they are not what you would choose, then reset to a better way!
It's interesting to be a solo-preneur as I approach retirement age. I've been able to let go of the societal, workplace prejudice about the "older American" and tired work habits, and really delve into work that delights me.
Are there workplaces which truly value the skill that older people can bring to their businesses? I haven't found them. But an experienced worker as a freelancer...now that's another situation.
The entrepreneur's image is necessarily based on their work ethic, personality and talent. A young adult stepping out into entrepreneurship may be perceived as not yet having the skill and authority necessary to not only run a business, but also to provide superior service to clients.
However, a middle-aged individual (and older) has reserves of business and life experience just waiting to be tapped. The sage, the expert, the wisdom-keeper. Assuming we have good work records, we have earned the respect of our associates and network. People tend to think, "Well, if he (she) has come this far, he (she) must have a lot to offer."
I am happier in work than I have ever been, and happier in my life as well. These, of course, are closely intertwined. Now, I am grateful for that shove off the cliff, although at the time I was terrified. I have, like that wonderful bottle of Cabernet, aged to perfection...and I know I will share my "sage-ness" with clients for years to come!
Recently in a spiritual gathering, the question was raised, "What if I'm wrong?" We were discussing fundamental religions, as I recall, but the question could be asked in many settings.
What if I'm wrong in my adamant, strict political view?
What if I'm wrong about what religion is the right one?
What if I'm wrong about the judgment I made about that person?
What if I'm wrong about gender preferences and relationships?
What if I'm wrong about the cause of what's wrong in the world?
What if I'm wrong about how I do this particular task?
What if I'm wrong about what my boss thinks?
What if I'm wrong about "them"?
Think about it. Whatever belief you hold onto the tightest, whatever you most believe to be true... what if it was NOT true? What if you found incontestable proof that an alternative viewpoint was true instead? How readily would you change your thoughts? What no-longer-needed emotions or thought-forms could you release? I'm not suggesting that you immediately force yourself to change. Instead, I'm suggesting that you examine the open mind...the open heart.
And...here's a really good question...what if you could release those now? Release all judgment, all condemnation, all righteousness? What if you simply lived your live according to the principle, "Love one another." What would happen then, in your life, and in the world?
Those of us who live in "light" (i.e. love, understanding, one-ness) often find ourselves running into what I'd call "darkness," people who have forgotten that they too are light. (I wrote this story several years ago - a perfect example.) We can choose to confront the dark, or ignore it, or try to change it, or we can simply continue to shine.
I've been involved in a situation for a few years that has progressed (perhaps regressed) into one of increasing darkness, as those people involved are caught in ego, competition and hatred. I admit that it has been a challenge to deal with, as I'm very sensitive to energy and emotion, but it is a situation I have not been able to instantly change in my life. I recently realized that I have allowed this condition to influence my own peace of mind. Rather than simply shining, I withheld my light from those around me (who, if I am honest, might need light more than most) as I grumbled and resented and crabbed.
So, now that I realize that I have dipped a toe into the darkness, I choose to change my outlook. While I will not participate in these people's agendas, which would take me further out of my natural state, I will simply be myself, doing what I choose to do, and enjoying the warmth of the light.
The only thing that can counteract darkness is the light.
So now it's your turn - in what situations do you find yourself that could benefit from a change in perspective?
You probably know by now that I reinvented myself when a layoff in 2009 "forced" me to change my goals. You know when your GPS says "rerouting"? Well, that was me. And in the process of the journey I've met so many wonderful heart-based entrepreneurs who had the same issue.
Think about it - when you start out on a journey, you can set your GPS to your destination, but you won't get anywhere until the device determines your present location. And if you miss or ignore the instructions it gives you, you may end up in Poughkeepsie when you were aiming for Cleveland!
So I find it important to know my setpoints - where I am now and where I want to go. Once my spiritual GPS is set, I pay close attention while "driving" (living my life) so that I don't miss any of the "turn here" moments that Spirit provides me. That's when I've had the most success in my life and business. Co-creating with Spirit, with my goals and desires as the framework.
How do you negotiate life's turns? Are you good at following direction or do you sometimes decide to go another way? Comment below!
A mirror casts only the reflection of what it sees. Something similar happens to people, although we obviously are multi-dimensional.
Anyone who has seen this website knows that I believe in, practice and teach the Law of Attraction. Not so much a “law” as a property of physics, this concept teaches that the vibration we offer as an energy being is cast into the universe and reflects back up on us. So, if you give off vibes of “annoyed,” you entrain back to you more annoyance. If you emit vibes of prosperity, you attract more of that.
Don’t get me wrong – not a mean bone in her body. But she was the complete, expert Victim who consistently attracted more examples of victimhood.
We all know someone who seems to be the life of the party. The happy individual who sees the sunshine wherever he goes, who is enjoyed by men and woman alike as such a bright star. He will inevitably attract more of the people who appreciate and reflect that happiness back to him.
Take a look around you. Without ego (positive or negative) take an objective look at the people in your life, those you spend the most time with. Do you see patterns of behavior? We all take on different roles at different times, and of course we all have human moods and emotions. But what is the overriding theme of those you spend time with?
My suggestion to you is that if what you see is less than ideal, notice what of your own thoughts, emotions and vibrations are reflecting. Taking an objective look or inventory may reveal some previously hidden themes in your own life. And once uncovered, you can take action to change.
If you don’t much like what you see in the mirror, you have the power to change the image!
I recently had a conversation with a close friend about how odd we've both been feeling lately, and I have been reading similar stories from spiritual communities I'm involved with. Our earth and our way of life is shifting energetically, and those of us who are sensitive to energy are really feeling the shakeup. No worries, it's all good!
Have you seen news stories of great archaeological discoveries being made after an earthquake clears an area? Or an item of great value being found after a home renovation? In these cases, as now, the shakeup was necessary to bring wonderful things to light.
For example, I've been lately experiencing out-of-the-blue memories of challenges, arguments, difficult situations, and at first I wondered why. However I noticed a pattern, and now each time this happens, I know that it is the necessary clearing to unveil the treasure. I bless the past situation, the memory, the people involved, and move on.
The same with physical symptoms my friend and I have felt - we bless the sensation, eagerly await the unveiling, and move on.
What do you sense is clearing from your life? Don't fear the shift - go with it, and enjoy the treasure!
It's finally spring here in Northeast Ohio, and thoughts are at last turning to the greening and flowering of the trees, the preparation of our gardens, and the sowing of seeds. Besides our actual physical gardens, we need to pay attention to the spiritual seeds we plant as well.
I have just shut the door on a casual "acquaintanceship" with someone who has planted dark, angry seeds, and is now struggling with the crop she has sown. I refuse to allow this person's weeds to affect my own prosperous garden of "light seeds."
The vast majority of my friends and relationships choose light, choose to plant seeds of hope at the very least, and joy at the greatest. Examine your words, your actions, your creations - what crop are you prepared for when your seeds have come to bloom?