Right this minute, on the cusp of a new year, STOP IT! Stop being harsh to yourself, stop scolding, "shoulding," rushing, blaming. Do you ever catch yourself with self-talk you would never use on a loved one?
Self love means nourishing yourself, guiding yourself, not worrying and punishing yourself. If you do not have love for the self, how can you properly have love for others? It all comes back to the frequently-used analogy of the airplane's oxygen mask. Take care of yourself first so that you can help others. FIRST...not instead-of, not in-spite-of, not only...FIRST.
In my work I have occasionally caught myself completing tasks for clients first, before those I need to accomplish for my own personal or professional life. The awareness is a good thing - a "re-routing" on my GPS. Mixing metaphors freely here, if I don't ensure that my well is full and I allow it to run dry, there's no water for any of us!
Choose to pay attention to your self-talk, and be gentle. Instead of "Well that was a stupid thing to do," try "I could have made a better decision and next time I will." Rather than "Oh, crap, you fool - you forgot to.....," try "I choose to use this new method to manage my time and my tasks." Focus on all the wonderful things you know about yourself, and remind yourself of them every day - preferably in a mirror. And soon, your well will be abundant and flourishing with sweet water for all!
Thoreau said: "If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."
I chose this quote very deliberately when I designed my website. It is the nature of my work! Healers, teachers, intuitives are usually right-brain people. In the years I have worked with this client base, the majority of my clients have brilliant dreams and uplifting things to teach, but trouble with the execution. Are they lacking in something? Absolutely not!
“The lovers, the dreamers, and me.” We all learn differently, think differently, and communicate differently. Some are very left-brain, analytical, precise, and others are very right-brain, creative, big-picture. In the skill testing I’ve had, I fall somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, and so I make a good bridge between the hemispheres!
There are many reasons right-brainers may have trouble with execution:
If you’re one of those dreamers, keep on dreaming! But be sure to delegate to a skilled, trusted associate so that your dreams are captured and made a physical reality!
If you are one of the people, or know one of the people, whose heart is in their left brain (get it?), then my book, The Spiritual Virtual Assistant: A Guide to Supporting Holistic Practitioners, may be for you. If you are the practitioner, spread the word that this resource exists to teach more assistants how to support the dreamers. There are not nearly enough support staff like me to support the number of heart-based workers - please spread the word that this is a wonderful career opportunity!
The name of the “supreme being” has been debated, fought over, written about and whispered for millennia. Having a Judeo-Christian foundation, I have chosen to use “God” as the term for the Creator. In the context of my life, the label does not matter – the concept is the important part. Whether you use the term universal consciousness, Allah, Almighty, Higher Power, Goddess or any other name you choose, the foundation of enlightened teaching is that a universal energy, a real force, exists. It is the energy with which you co-create, with which you co-exist, and within which you co-exist. This God-energy is not Michelangelo’s old man in heaven, nor a vengeful judging dictator who will smite you down, nor a benevolent grandfather, but instead an all-pervasive energy of love. And when we learn how to tap in and live in that love-force, our lives will change forever. I know – mine did!
In our Midwest colloquial language we refer to the twilight of the year as "fall" more often than "autumn." I assume that's because of the falling of the leaves, but I don't know the origin. The season signals a shift in light, a change in weather, and the accompanying change in our lifestyles and moods.
So go ahead. Fall down. The world looks different from the ground.- Oprah Winfrey
I just had a fall of another sort. Confession time: I "fell down" on the job. Good ol' Holly, she can handle it, no problem, bring on the work! And in my bravado, I made some mistakes. HORRORS! I was reminded of my humanity. I was reminded of my boundaries. Reminded that my expertise is based on having the time to produce the quality results that I normally produce. And so my falling down was a great time to shift.
The world indeed looks different from the ground - with a new viewpoint, I was provided the opportunity to renew my procedures. I was, in a very firm and powerful way, reminded by Spirit that I need to take care of MY business and MY life before providing to others. And reminded to provide to others within my abilities, so that I can serve honorably.
And so, now that I've given confession to you, my readers, I absolve myself by taking action toward a new way of living and working. And that feels really good!
If you have a similar lesson to share, don't hesitate to comment below!
“The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another's, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises.” ― Leo Buscaglia
I'm often asked where my business identity "Lightseeds" came from. Quite literally, the seed of the name was planted in me during sleep. I woke one morning several years ago with the word firmly planted in my consciousness. Over the next weeks, my business concept solidified and came to fruition.
But what does it mean? I think the quote from Leo Buscaglia above says it all. Every minute we're alive, we're spreading seeds - whether of light or the absence of light is up to us. I choose the light, and so do my beautiful clients. Every smile we send, every healing, every energy exchange, every handshake, every uplifting post, no matter what kind of transaction with another person, we are spreading more seeds, enabling the other person to then continue to sow.
Ever think your life doesn't matter? I beg to differ. That clerk you smiled at this morning was hurting. The comment you just left on Facebook meant the world to someone who read it. The friend you just offered to help is now in a better position to help someone else.
And so it continues...seed after seed after seed.
I'm sitting in my office smelling the sweet, fresh air that's left after severe storms washed through my N.E. Ohio neighborhood this afternoon. The sky is bright blue, the birds are singing, and the temperature has dropped about 15 degrees. Ahhhhhhh . . . .
Times like this remind me of the delight of washing my mind, my energy and my spirit clean as well. I write so often about purging, but this is more than that. This is release. Refreshment. Restoration. Meditation does that for me, that connection with Spirit that grounds and infuses me. So does music, dance and song. Any crumb of dis-ease, disgruntlement or disturbance just washes away.
Consider your life. What do the storms in your life wash away? Don't fear the storms; welcome them as the refreshment they are.
I wrote earlier about changing the station of your life if you don't like what's playing. But you can also change the picture! I just went through a powerful meditation process from Natalie Ledwell of MindMovies.com, which asked us to determine an immediate goal ($5,000, 20 lb. weight loss, two more hours of sleep a night, whatever it is for you), and then picture the block to obtaining that.
Deep in the guided meditation, I saw myself sitting on a beautiful beach, under a grove of cool, shady trees. Soft breeze blowing, gulls cawing, oh so peaceful. And I clearly saw a huge, thick brick wall between me and my goal, transparent so I could see the goal but not reach it.
Natalie asked us to create another picture, up in the "corner of our vision," this one a concrete picture of ourselves enjoying the goal. I visualized that picture coming closer to me while at the same time the other blocked picture was receding. I felt a distinct struggle with this process, but per her direction I snapped the "good" picture into place. And in the process I actually felt an energetic release. I saw the "bad" picture fading, crumpling at the edges and finally disappearing. And I saw myself reaching for and obtaining the goal I'd set. Dancing around the beach, laughing in joy.
What pictures would you put in these places? And how can you make the switch from the "unobtainable" to the "easily reached"?
Here in the Cleveland, OH area, WMWV the Wave broadcasts smooth jazz. When I want smooth jazz, I need to tune my radio to their frequency of 107.3FM. If I change stations (change frequencies), I'll get a different result, a different output. And if I change back to 107.3, once again I'll get smooth jazz.
Funny thing about radio - it's always broadcasting. The frequency is never NOT there. It's only when you tune in that you can get the result - smooth jazz.
And this, my friends, is a simple description of how the Law of Attraction works. You can tell what station you are tuned into by your feelings, which generate the world around you. You see around you the results of your past thoughts, words and actions.
If you don't like what you see around you, change the station! Don't complain that you don't like country music - change the dial (your thoughts) to what you DO want to listen to. The resulting music is the emotion you feel. Happy? Tuned into the right station. Angry? Not so much.
"It can't possibly be that simple." Oh yeah? You'd be wrong. It IS that simple. I am living proof, and so are the millions of people who live deliberately, consciously creating the world around them. Tune in!
"He had words with his neighbor." Bad.
"Word of honor!" Good.
"May I have a word with you?" Either.
Words are the tools of my trade as a Virtual Assistant - whether marketing, client communications, blogs, or any other communication. Words are utterances, collections of sounds or the symbols representing those sounds. They have no meaning except what we assign to them. But they do have power!
Look at the word "Inspire." The origin of the word is in-spire, to breathe. If you are inspired, you are breathing in the energy and power around you (in my belief system, that is God). What would happen if you deliberately breathed in specific words?
Many of us are familiar with Dr. Emoto's earth-changing work with the science of words affecting water. And those of us in holistic fields understand that, being largely water ourselves, the same power affects our beings.
A long-time spiritual coach of mine often has me do breathing "exercises." When dealing with a specific emotional, spiritual or physical issue, I will breathe out what no longer serves, and breathe in the replacement. Breathe OUT obstacles, breathe IN flow. Breathe OUT lack, breathe IN plenty. I can tell you that after years of this exercise, the words have great impact. Of course the breathing affects you on its own, but I have seen great transformations in my energy by consciously choosing to let go of something and replace it with something better.
Be inspired and try it!
I was recently reminded of a conversation I had several years ago with a deeply religious person. I don't recall what led to the conversation with my friend, but I do vividly remember the comment that was made to me: "Well you can't just pick and choose what you believe! It's not a smorgasbord!" I was so surprised that I did not respond.
You should know that, while I respect those who are immersed in a religion, I follow no established religion myself. I believe that all paths to enlightenment and love are valid, as we each create our own world. The God that I understand gave us free will!
Are we to believe something because "everyone else does," or (as I once heard in a church) "But that's what we believe!"? That's not my choice. God gave me an intelligent brain, a loving soul, and the wisdom to decide what my life is about, and I know what is "truth" for me. I DO believe that it's a smorgasbord, and I plan to savor the deliciousness of every thought, idea, and concept that comes to me, as I create my abundantly rich and tasty life!